Last night during dinner, Saleha gave Lily some advice on what to do when some girls in school make her feel bad about herself. Girls who make her think she’s not good enough, not pretty enough, not thin enough.
Start with the little things. Remind yourself of the things that make you feel confident and good about yourself. Then sit up straighter, and walk tall.
Sometimes these words mean the world when they come from a big sister. Times like this I am reminded why I was so happy when I found out I was going to have two girls. And why I always wanted a sister. This is girl power. This is why women need each other when we are adults and why girls should be taught young to prop each other up, not put each other down.
Saleha also shared something else she learned in middle school.
Try this. Think of something about yourself, write it down on a piece of paper. On the other side, write “it’s okay.”
It was hard for Lily. She wrote things like “I’m fat, I’m not pretty…”
But that’s all not true Lily. My friends think you are pretty.
Compliment from big sister! Big eyes, jaw drop, huge smile. Wow.
At bed time, Lily tried again after I turned off the lights.
I’m really scared of roller coasters. And it’s okay. I’m not as pretty as some girls. And it’s okay.
I’m terrified of roller coasters too my love. And it’s okay.
Saleha did have one more piece of advice at dinner.
Tell those girls you can run faster, you are strong, and you can do more pushups than any of them.
That’s right sista. When in doubt, show them how you can kick ass.